At one point, some of us may recognize that our innocence is
shattered. Which innocence that would be—depends on each individual. It could
be an individual who suddenly realized that most people are liars.
When I was growing up in the 1960s and 1970s; if I lied I
would’ve been beaten by my dad and sent up to my room without dinner. Yes, that
is what would’ve happened. And because I did not lie—that never happened to me.
So, it took me till I was about thirty-seven years of age to
understand that most people lie. I was so disturbed when my then running coach
accused me of lying—that I called up a woman I knew as a trauma specialist. I needed
to ask a trusted professional—why would my coach who’s known me for years
accuse me of lying. When I knew that I hadn’t.
And that I would consider lying a criminal act.
Yes, I believed that lying was/is one of the most sinful
things a person could do. Lying to me is equal to a betrayal of sorts. It is
painful, harmful to humanity at minimum. I may not call you out on it. I might
walk away. Act as though it didn’t happen—perhaps stay clear away from visiting
the subject matter.
To be clear, I’m not one of these inexperienced humans. I’ve
survived fire, flood, crime, disease, all sorts of stuff. I know some of the
most deepest, darkest horrible things. Things I may never tell our daughters.
Some have been front page news. Other situations have been hidden for decades—rarely
seeped out by me if at all.
I’ve contemplated, on if and when I would ever tell our
daughters much of what I’ve experienced—much of what I know. Its too heavy for
young minds. And I’ve discovered inexperienced minds as well. It is
mind-blowing, knee buckling, sickening, and heart-sinking. Over the years, I’ve
discovered most people cannot handle much of what I’ve experienced and known.
The good news is that they’re unfamiliar with such things.
They’ve most likely have had a ‘peachy’ living, no matter the age. The bad news
is—that those things that are possibly so dark will be ignored by society repeatedly—to
the degree that society will not know truths. In turn new legislation, new
education, better understanding has been greatly delayed by most who don’t or
won’t allow the truth to be a reckoning force. And that is how evil reigns. Because
people can be controlled by lies—that they want to believe.---Jody-Lynn Reicher