I don’t do it because I have to. I do it because I want to.
I don’t think many people comprehend that. Most I think, disregard their own
depth in understanding. Why? Mostly laziness. Laziness to work on themselves, or
with themselves in their present condition. Why the choice to opt for laziness?
Sometimes its because they think, ‘what’s the use, no one will care or perhaps
even know’. Sometimes it’s because they tried for something a certain way and
it didn’t work the way THEY wanted it to work. So, they gave up, that’s pride.
And you know what they say about pride don’t you.
Worse yet after they make their decision to forgo giving
something another shot, they despise you for making further attempts that they’ve
given up on. And they perceived you’ve failed, by not making the goal they’ve chosen
for themselves. Well then, they are temporarily satisfied. But the way you know
they’re not on your ‘team’, is the lack of verbal contact, when they perceive
you to have either achieved something they didn’t or when you’ve had a loss,
but you still look like you didn’t lose. Trust me, they won’t call to console
you. No matter the devastation you may have suffered. Let them go. They are not
yours’ to handle. As a matter of fact, it may be wise to avoid them like the
plague and not even speak their name.
I learned this to be the truth as I approached my
fifty-first birthday, now many years ago. My MMA fight coach and I were having
a private training session. He stated exactly what I needed to hear. And comically
he was being facetious. He knew what he was doing. He was trying to make me see
other people’s jealousy, so I wouldn’t feel hurt. That’s the sign of a good coach. He also knew me
well enough for me to have compassion towards their ineptness in their attempts
to make me feel bad, and/or to make me quit doing whatever it was I was doing.
As they blamed me for making them feel their own inequities. Profound, isn’t it?
I’ve encountered this everywhere, every place… When I do
something, it’s because it feels right. It’s not because I’m going to get a reward,
a medal, some compensation, etc… Quite conversely, I’m not even there in that
realm. Rewards are the last thing on my mind. I had a client remark about
twenty-three years ago in my office. She,
a woman twenty years or more my senior. She said, “You know what’s amazing?” I
wagged my head, “No. Tell me.” I replied as I worked on her. She countered, “You
don’t have an agenda.” I replied, “What
is an agenda?” She grinned and wagged
her head; then nodded. I added, “I don’t mean to sound stupid. But I’m not sure
what that means. I mean, like in life.” She replied, “I know.”
Now, as I look back at that conversation, I now have an
agenda. I want peace and I want to share enlightenment. And if I’d had an agenda in the past, well it
would be that.---Jody-Lynn Reicher
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