Skip to main content

"Diaries of the Dismissed"



Diaries of the Dismissed

As I lay in bed at one thirty in the morning, after a two hour sleep. I reckon with the demons of the past.  Not because I necessarily want to.  But because they are there.  They are telling me, ‘Get up and write’. ‘There is no time!’, they scream for nearly two of the three hours I lay in bed knowing I am spiritually, and physically wiped. I know full well, if I do get up and write. No matter how important it is that I do, I know that I will pay later. I’ve been through these episodes of, ‘Get up and write’. When I let them go, sometimes, I’m disappointed.  But this time, is one of the times I must not get up and write, nor stretch, nor go outside for a run in the wee hours of the morning.
That brings me to the laying in bed. Praying that I stay in bed and just rest, healing other things and other people in my mind’s eye.  Why? Because I am compelled. It is what I do. I meditate and pray.  Trust me, when you live in my realm, there’s enough to pray for and thanking before after and in between.  And I don’t wish my being on anyone.  As a matter of fact, I had a cop I was standing talking with in our town about seven years ago. We were discussing memories and how we remember things.
He commented, “I’d never want to be you.”
I replied, “Yeah.  Why?”
He shook his head in pity and remarked, “You remember everything.”
I responded, “Yeah, well. I remember good things too Tom. It’s all in the mix. I live with it all,     and for the most part it’s not half-bad.” Tom just wagged his head, as if to say, ‘I want none of that.’
So, this brings me to what scampered around in my mind during those three hours, My writing. How it all began. I had dabbled a bit starting at age seven. My mother had rewarded me at age eight because of it, yet with warnings.  She saw my fortitude, as well my drive. My drive for the truth, no matter how much it may be painful. I’m someone that needs to rectify everything. The search for why people are cruel to each other, is what has always been on my mind. I’m sure she knew that too.
The wave of my second writing was ages eleven and twelve and into thirteen. It was at a time in my life that I so wanted to scream at the top of my lungs, “STOOOPPPPPPP!” It was aimed at the cruelty of the world. Or rather I should say the dismissiveness of the lesser, the poor, the helpless. Yes, that was and is me. I’m still that same being. So last night as I prayed for people, for my family, for self, for our household. These thoughts arose over and over again, in between my prayers and meditations. At those ages I refer to, I was in my middle school years. I kept diaries those years somewhat regularly.
One of those years, I was tremendously blessed. I had a language arts teacher, Ms. Beltrami. She was frail, she was kind. She appeared sickly. But inside all of that, I saw reserve and gentleness in her.  I only wanted her to be happy.  I saw inside her soul. Sometimes, people let me do that.  And other times I’m gifted that view from another source. Not even if I don’t want to see what is inside the other being that stands in the room. I feel pain when I’m in pain and whether it is mine or someone else’s, I may still feel it. Many times, I feel other’s pain is much harsher. Harsher to them, because they don’t understand it.  Yet me the outsider just might.
So, this one year with Ms. Beltrami I wrote like a mad-woman for her.  I struggled in reading. I struggled in comprehension of grammar.  Yet, I could write. I cannot for the life of me remember how many pieces I wrote for her. I got A’s and B’s, even when I failed tests and quizzes. She encouraged me to write.  I remember those eyes looking down at me from her pale complexion, accepting what only I had to offer her. What I offered her, was understanding of all the cruelties humanity had to offer. That’s what I wrote about. It was pure heart and soul.
One day my mother saw the writings I was doing.  As well, Mom had snuck into my one drawer that I kept my diaries in and read some. My Mom had this concerned look on her face.
“Jody, what you write is horrible. I mean, you really feel that way?”  She asked.  I didn’t know how to reply.  I was age twelve at the time.  So, instead I apologized for freaking Mom out. Then she asked, “What does it do for you?”
I replied, “The diary writing. I need to talk to someone.  But yet, God doesn’t always respond the way a human does.  Yet, He understands me. So, once I write it, I feel better.”
She seemed a bit astonished, I gather. She then continued, “What about the writings that you do for Language Arts? Do you share them?”
I replied, “Yes, Ms. Beltrami loves them.  They make her happy.”
Mom remarked, “But they seem so sad.” 
I responded, “Well, it’s about life. You know feelings. It’s good, if it makes her happy.  I’m getting good grades. She tells me so.”
Mom pursued, “So, your writing like that, you think makes her happy. So, that’s why you get good grades from her?”
I replied, “My sadness makes her happy.  Because she needs to know I understand her feelings. And it’s okay. The world’s a tough place for her, Mom.”
My three years in that new school system, were some of the toughest years of my life. I was bullied nearly all the time, inside and out of school. I had no friends, accept my dog and God. That was it. Ms. Beltrami, a teacher although not a friend.  She was someone who benefitted from my honesty and my view of the pains in life. I saw this, and I wondered how others couldn’t.
One day around the beginning of the third marking period of seventh grade Ms. Beltrami was no longer.  Another woman became my teacher.  She confronted me, “I will not accept your writing as your grade.” She commented.  If I knew then how to curse back at her, I think I would have called her a SOB. To this day, I see her as an uncompromising bitch.  Not because of how she was going to grade me. It was how she had delivered the message. As well she not asking me to stay after school, in order to speak with me privately, I would NOT have haggled. Because I had too much respect for teachers and those in authority to even think of haggling. She assumed.  And with that, I resented. 
Imagine having a child who may not be undisciplined who could make your life a living hell in class.  I had nothing to lose. No one cared. Yet, I knew better than she did. I bit my tongue, acted stupid and did whatever I wanted to. I could not be embarrassed, because I’d already been pushed too far.
To this day, I think about Ms. Beltrami and what made her disappear. It could’ve been death, depression, long term illness. It wasn’t the first time I had a favorite teacher leave my presence.  Yet, it was the first time one left and was never heard from again. Just like any child, I had my favorites.  Ms. Beltrami was one of them. My Mom was astonished that I let Ms. Beltrami take thirty of my writings home with her. Only she was never to return. Mom was upset for me about that.  Yet, I explained to Mom, “It’s not about me.  She needs those writings. It’s my gift to her. So, it’s okay.” Yet, the gift I received was giving someone understanding.  To me giving understanding to someone is the most precious gift we can give one another as human beings.  It is what makes the world go round.---Jody-Lynn Reicher

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

The Reicher's Official Holiday Letter

  “When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” ---Ralph Waldo Emerson There are many ways to shed light on seemingly impossible situations or what we would consider obstacles to our daily living. It is not always in our daily intake and output that is the measurement of a human being. It is the grind. Some people struggle with miniscule grinds; while others have bus loads to grind through. Some don’t make it. Few do. Making it, is not, not dying. It’s progressing through even when there appears no light at the end of the tunnel. That there may not even be a twinkle of a star in the nights ahead. And the human that faces that, knowing full well that they can’t change the ending to their earthly story. Yet, they consciously go through the process, has made it. They’ve lived. No matter their age, I believe that, to be one of Life’s truths. As this year has progressed, the pandemic actually blessed us. Yep. Many would not agree with that. But then, they weren’t us. They weren’t our

To Laconia and Canada Too

 He began, "So, I got this deal..."  Me, "Yeah?" Norman,  "I went up on 23, and saw her. " Me, "Where did you go?" Norman, "Sport Spot on 23 South.  And there she was." Me, "Uh oh."😊 Norman,  "I'm graduating to a BMW.  She was sitting there. 1986, an R80RT. A touring sportster... " Me, "What about the Yamaha, Norm?" Norman, "I'll get a buyer before I have to pick up the R80RT." It was 1987, we'd just had a semi long motorcycle ride up North together for a week. New England that'd be.  Norman was all enthralled about the open road. Married just over three years at the time, and he rediscovered a new love.  Me wary, yet curious.  'Maybe she'll ride easier.  Less bumpy on certain roadways of upstate New York'. Norman even had me considering getting a motorcycle license.  I'd driven nearly every style, engine from small military jeep to tractor trailers...

Completion of Humanness

Completion of Humanness As we arrive to the completion of the first year without Norman, I had decided long before he'd passed that I would continue to do things certain things he liked yet could no longer do. I decided I would not take a day off of fitness.  I would run at least for 500 days in a row. I began that in early 2020.  I'd not be concerned with the distance I'd run. It was the very thing I convinced Norman and the thing that mattered to him, from the very first discussion we had August 11th, 1981, was fitness. I loved that he was a College Boy. He loved that I was a Marine. We tickled each other's soul with such admirations. Later fitness continued as an old discussion from 1994 ...getting outside and to run no matter what. I would say to him, "Run 200 meters, then 400 meters. If it doesn't feel good, stop. Turn around and walk back home and know you did your best. That is all you can ask of yourself." I said this,  knowing he would get dow